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Depression Stops Your Dreams

Hello world fitters. Depression and weight gain goes hand in hand. The chances are if your big. You wont love your body and your likely to be depress. Unfortunately that’s what the bullies want. They want you to hate your body and hate yourself. Last week we talk about “fat shamming.” “Fat shamming” had led to a lot of depression. A lot of shame. For instance when I gain the weight I really felt ashamed of my body. I no longer felt attractive. Which was embellish with people telling me I was less attractive. All of us must understand that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. We should have the body that we want because we are all worth it. In order for us to be happy. We deserve to get the body and life that we want.

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When we are not where we want to be in life. We get depressed and get uninterested in life. Things that we use to love. Have lost it luster. Now depressive thoughts have filled your head. You feel hopeless like life will never get any better. I have struggle with these thoughts in the pass. I felt alone because I have isolated myself from my love ones. Yeah I was knee deep in depression. We all get a little blue sometimes. For example, maybe your long time love have decided that he no longer wanted to be with you. I’ve been heart broken before. It certainly wasn’t fun. Eventually the pain wear off and you move on with your life. With depression you cant simply push the negative thoughts aside and move on. Depression hold on to you like a tight sweater. It wont let you get away from it’s tight grasp. So how do you tell if it is depression and not just a small case of the blues? What is depression?

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“Depression is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. “Also called major depressive disorder or clinical depression, it affects how you feel, think, and behave and can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems.” With depression it is more then feeling a little sad. Activities you normally do. You can no longer do them. The energy and positive thoughts are just not there. For example, you are not able to get up and take a shower. That sign let you know that you are experiencing more then your usual woes. While going through these difficult times. It’s good to have a good support group. A support team that you can talk to about your difficult days. Sometimes we just need someone to just listen. No judgment! No suggestions! Just your ear and perhaps a hug or two.

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Sometimes a simple hug just wont do. Maybe you need some anti-depressants. Before you get the right drug. you have to know what type of depression you have. Currently there are nine types of depression. They are Major Depression, Persistent Depressive Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, Seasonal Affective Disorder(SAD), Psychotic Depression, Postpartum Depression, Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder(pmdd), Situations Depression, Atypical Depression. In another blog post I will go over in more details about the different types of depression. Right now I just wanted to touch on the topic. To give you guys an idea on the different types of depression. So that you can get the help that you need. For your weight gain problems.

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As I mentioned before weight gain can have a profound effect on your mental health. Which then can lead to depression. Some people gain weight when they are depressed. While others lose the weight. It depends on the individual. How about you world fitters? Do you gain or lose weight when your depressed? I myself lose weight when I’m depressed. The following research shows the correlation between depression and weight gain. In a 2009 research by the University of Alabama at Birmingham. The researchers found that the more depress people are. The more likely they are to gain weight more then there happier counter parts. It’s really simple really. When you are depressed you wont be moving that much. Your irregular food habits wont help the situation. So the weight will get piled up. The gainer may feel guilty about the weight gain and in turns eat more and gain more weight. It’s a vicious cycle. This vicious cycle can stop with the right suggestions.

My suggestion is try and get the person moving. Exercising releases the endorphins in the brain which makes you feel good. Whenever I’m done exercising I usually feel good. So exercise and get high on life and your body. When your happy the way things are going in your life. It shows! Your skin will be glowing. Your look young and youthful. Your look ready for anything life has to offer. So go out there and live! Your time is limited! Don’t ever waste anytime doing what you don’t love. Cherish every moment like it is your last. Because it just mate be. Make your mark in this world or you will be forgotten. Never forget your dreams! Don’t let depression stop you from achieving your dreams.

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If your currently depress there is help out there. Don’t ever feel alone. Your not! Someone else is going through the same thing as you are. Below I have the “National Suicide Prevention Lifeline” number. If you need help don’t hesitate to call!

                 The number is 1(800) 273-8255 or you can visit their website www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

Daily Poll:

Are you depress?

a) Yes I’m.

b) No I’m to bless.

c) Yes a little.

d) No but I know someone who is.

e) No but I was.

f) No depression is only for weak people.

My Weekly Shapely:

Hello world fitters! I’m currently here at work. Thinking about what news you guys want me to report to you. I do try to keep you up-to-date on the latest information. After all when it come to weight loss, it’s good to try different things to see which work best for you. Stopping your weight loss journey because of boredom is a very common reason to quit. For instance this whole summer heading to the park and taking one of my long walks. Sometime haven’t been easy. Sometime I definitely wanted to stay home and relaxed. Especially after I was seeing results. I felt I deserve a cheat day as a congratulation for my hard work. As the cooler weather comes in. I know my walking outdoors will stop and I will take my work outs to inside my house. Which in it self will be a challenge. As I get easily distracted. In the end I have to want it bad enough.

I do want it bad enough. I want to make my weight loss part of my life permanently. I’m not going to put back on the weight. I truly believe its imperative that you make the decision to lose the weight. You have to lose the weight for yourself. In the past I tried to lose the weight for other people. I was changing my body the way they see my body should be. Its your body world fitters! Treat it good make it feel good! This “My Weekly Shapely” I’m making a promise to myself for you all to see. The promise is I wont put back on the weight.” If you see me slipping say something! Call me on it! I want to make this an interactive blog. Where we all can interact with each other. I’m also working on posting more pictures and videos of myself. I hope you all have a good experience with this web-site! Moreover I hope you find it helpful. On that note I’m going to wish that you all have a great weekend! Bye bye world fitters!

 

Body Shaming, As If

Hello world fitters. How are you? I’m fine of course! Trying to be positive! As you guys know this web-site is all about loving yourself as you are. Like Michael Jackson says “it doesn’t matter if you fat or skinny.” Okay maybe Michael Jackson didn’t say exactly that. But I think you get the point? Right? It is my opinion that the world is obsessed with the perfect body.

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What is the perfect body? Well according to the media. The perfect body is about 125 pounds, size 38C breast, 22 inch waist, and a big back side. “Baby’s got back” an excited Sir Mix-a-lot song. So basically Nicki Minaj has the perfect body! Where does that leave the rest of us normal woman? I’ll tell you. That leaves us on an operating table getting ready to go under the knife. So that we too can have the perfect body. I think loving our body is so overrated! Nobody likes how they look. We all think there is something that needs fixing in our body. For example, “cosmetic surgery is booming worldwide as people flock to have millions of operations including breast augmentation, liposuction, and Botox.” It’s this obsession with perfection that makes Donna Simpson so unique.

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Donna Simpson was born on 1967 in Mogadore Ohio. Donna Simpson parents had 4 children of which she was the youngest. Throughout her youth she struggles with her weight. For instance by the time Donna Simpson was 9 years of age she weight approximately 184 pounds. However in her teen years Donna Simpson loss a lot of weight. she was approximately 154 pounds. Consequently it is also during that time that she decided she doesn’t want to be skinny. “Donna Simpson wants to be the worlds fattest women.” Say what? Maybe I heard wrong! That’s right Donna Simpson wants to be even bigger then she already is. She sees being curvy as sexy. That’s when Donna Simpson decided it would be a good idea to launch her website.

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In 2007 Donna Simpson rose to fame by creating a web-site. On her web-site she shares with her fans her eating habits, her waist line, and photos of her lovely body. Many man would agree with Donna Simpson to a point. A lot of man see a big women that is not too big can be sexy. Apparently while some man don’t like their women too big. Other man like their women supper sized. These man are referred to as feeders. It is these feeders that frequented Donnas web-site. For instance it is reported that by 2008 of the month of October Donna Simpson had 260 subscribers. Later in her show biz career Donna Simpson had a book deal and a reality TV in the works. In the end though after her lover Phillippe Gouamba left her. Donna Simpson decided to regain control of her life by dieting. So that she can be a better mother to her two children. Donna Simpson big size was impacting her life too much. She realize she was too big and made a change. But how big is too big? When is “fat shamming” wrong?

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 The answer is there is no universal measurement that lets you know your too big. Everyone have an opinion on what fat is? Your too big is an opinion that have many different sizes. Coincidentally women comes in different shapes and sizes. For example, I think myself as a curvy women. Here are my measurements 38C breast, 31 inch waist, and a medium size butt. That’s right world fitters. I feel comfortable enough to share with you my measurements. I feel like you are my online family. Similarly my friends and family also are familiar with my shape. When I venture more towards the fat side they let me know. But how big is too big? In my opinion only you can truly tell if your too big. So that you can make the decision to live a healthy and happy life. Always remember that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” Which simply means everyone have their preference when it comes to beauty. Just because a woman’s body is not your preference. That doesn’t mean you should “fat shame” her.

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What is “fat shamming?” “Fat shamming” is the putting down of a person because of the bigness of their body. Therefore making them feel ashamed of their body. We should all love and take care of our body. We only have one body. If a person truly needs to lose weight because their health is in danger. “Body shamming” them is not the way to go. Most of us are already insecure about our body. We don’t need someone helping us hate our body. There is one women that doesn’t agree “body shamming” is wrong. As a matter of fact she made a video describing how she felt about fat people. The women I’m referring to is Nicole Arbour.

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Nicole Arbour ” is a Canadian comedian, recording artist, actress, writer, choreographer, dancer and producer from Hamilton, Ontario.” Everyone is aware of Nicole’s Arbour “fat shaming” video. It had made regular civilians as well as celebrities pretty upset. Truthfully I don’t care much for her video. It wasn’t funny or entertaining. If it was I would of said so. However I do think Nicole Arbour have a right to her opinion and a right to create her video. Just don’t take it to heart what she said. Nobody knows you and your struggles. Overeating is an addiction as well as other drugs and can turn deadly. Don’t let people put you down. Remember this blog “Body Shaming” “As If”. The bottom line is fat shamming can have devastating results. Take my story for instance.

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When I put on the weight. After being skinny for most of my life. Needless to say I was told a lot of negative things about my new body. For instance a lot of people told me about how much better I looked when I was skinny. All that negative comment made my already low self esteem plummet. I no longer felt attractive. I felt that everybody thought I was ugly. At some point I was becoming suicidal. But thank god I work through my pain. I created this site to let everyone know it’s okay to not have the perfect body. You are perfect in your imperfection. I hope my web-site is helping you. Giving you the strength to get the body you feel comfortable in. Please share with me your “fat shamming” stories below. So that you can get the support you need and deserve.

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Quick Poll:

What do you think about the Nicole Arbour “fat shaming” video?

a) I hate it.

b) I love it.

c) I think it is hilarious.

d) I really don’t care.

e) Nicole Arbour is hot.

f) No comment.

g) All the above

My Answer:

My answer is d.

My Weekly Shapely:

Hello world fitters. So it is currently September. Back to school is in full swing. It’s time to breath a sign of relief. No more kids just laying around. Now some me time! Go ahead and plan that early morning walk. That mid afternoon brunch with your friends sounds promising. While planning all these fun activities. Don’t forget to fit some exercise in your daily schedule. Fall is on its way. Follow by winter. We know winter is when most of us have problems keeping our healthy life styles. The holidays comes with more then presents. Unfortunately these special presents are not quite easily returned. That’s why it is important we continue our healthy life styles through out the winter. Don’t worry loseweightandfeelgreatwithfran.com will be with you every step of the way. As for me I’m fine. I’ve reached my goal weight for September. I’ve decided no more setting a particular goal weight. I’m just going to remain consistent. That’s right world fitters be consistent in everything you do. If you do it long enough you shall succeed. Have a beautiful weekend all. Bye! Bye!