Hello there, Lovelies. How are you all doing today? Lovelies, have you ever finally gotten what you wanted in life, only to do everything you could to destroy it? Sometimes we can be our very own worst enemy, holding ourselves back from living our dreams. Self-destruction can leave the quietest crime scene, yet have the most everlasting consequences. “Self-destructive behaviors are actions that harm your physical or mental well-being, often stemming from underlying emotional pain, trauma, or mental health conditions like depression or anxiety, serving as maladaptive coping mechanisms for stress, shame, or low self-esteem, and can include substance misuse, self-harm, procrastination, or sabotaging relationships, requiring self-awareness, new coping skills (like mindfulness), and professional help (like DBT) to replace with healthier habits for better overall well-being.”

Lovelies, it is no secret that I suffer from low self-esteem. I was very grateful to start my self-love journey on November 1, 2016. This entire blog is based on this personal journey. There are plenty of inspirational stories and motivational quotes throughout this frantastic site. I have included two additional platforms for connecting with you all. I want our connection to be as authentic as possible. We are all truly a family and are part of this wonderful community. Ya, Lovelies, I have so many dreams and things I wish to accomplish. I have always wanted what most would consider extraordinary. I have a beautiful, brilliant mind. It is very clear that I think differently from other people. Nonetheless, no matter how brilliant my mind is, I always somehow self-destruct. For example, as the new year starts, I’m all excited about changing things and finally living my sweet dreams. Then, as the new year unraveled, I began to self-destruct, and by the end of the year, I had ruined my chances at a better, happier life. Lovelies, does what I say resonate with you? Do you also self-sabotage? When many of us fail, it is so much easier to look outside ourselves when asked what went wrong. Many of us like to use a bad childhood as an excuse for not being able to live our dreams. The truth is, if you look at your life and are not happy with how it’s currently going. You only have yourself to blame. Accountability is needed for success. When we self-destruct, we give up responsibility. We don’t believe we would succeed anyway. So, we do everything in our power to ruin our chances of reaching our very own happily ever after. This year, I want it to be different for us Lovelies. Let’s talk more about that tomorrow. I love you all, be well, and take good care of yourself. Bye for now. Until next time, with sweet love ya.

Hello there, Lovelies, and how do you do? I’m okay, ever so hopeful, ya. Ya, I’m trying to be more positive these days. No need to be sad. This is your life, and you must be in the driver’s seat, driving to your happily ever after. Lovelies, it is essential to take control of your happiness. Happiness is what makes this perfectly imperfect life worth living. Similarly, in order to be happy, you must be in control of your finances, as it can severely impact your well-being. “Financial difficulties severely harm well-being, causing stress, anxiety, depression, and isolation, while also leading to physical issues like poor sleep, headaches, and fatigue, creating a vicious cycle where money problems worsen mental health, and poor mental health makes managing finances harder.”

Yes, Lovelies, being in New York, the beautiful city that it truly is, can be very expensive. Just renting itself can be 2,000 per month. Plus, when you add in groceries and other necities ya financial stress can set in and seemingly never leave. I’m a model and content creator, and going for my dreams has been truly satisfying. Going from not even making 1 cent to paying bills with my online earnings is proof that consistency pays off. However, I still currently have financial stress, so I truly madly deeply know how it impacts my wellbeing. For example, waking up with anxious thoughts and having trouble sleeping. If you are currently facing financial hardship, my heart goes out to you. Life can be extremely challenging at times. I’m here to support you the best I can. I will keep you all updated on my financial situation. When I find a solution, I will share it. As we all deserve financial freedom and to be happy. I know this site is all about loving your perfectly imperfect body. Having financial security can help you better care for your body. However, though money is not everything, it is everything. You need money to take care of all your needs. Not being able to take care of your basic needs, food, shelter, and water, can really impact your well-being. Be well, Lovelies. Comment your thoughts below and get the support you deserve. I love you. I want you to be happy and stress-free. Be kind to yourself. You may not have everything you desire while you are still here. You can work on reaching your happily ever after. Keep fighting for the life that you deserve. Bye, I will see you next time.

Hi Lovelies, I wanted to tell you about a dream that I had today. It was about my modeling and acting. It gives me the most wonderful feeling. I was so high on life. So happy. That is how it feels to live the life you want. Not living for other people. But doing exactly what your heart desires without any fear. I suddenly become very awear off past mistakes. Past misunderstanding. Do you take your dreams to heart, Lovelies? Do you think dreams have any true meaning? You know life can throw the biggest curveballs, and you are always in a position of catching every last one of them if only you believe in yourself.

Simply believing in yourself is not always easy. Sometimes you may be surrounded by people who put you down and make you doubt yourself. Nevertheless, I believe you can always be your own worst enemy. Stopping yourself from achieving your dreams. Keeping yourself from reaching your happily-ever-after. I say this at the height of the new year. You still have time to achieve all your goals. Many of us give up on our resolutions by the time we reach February. The reason I’m sharing this sweet, helpful information is that we all need to be reminded. Life often gets in the way, and we forget again. Next thing we know, we are 68 and retired with not much to show. The right time is always now because that is all that is promised to us. None of us is promised tomorrow. So ya just sharing again, hoping to inspire. That dream needed to be shared just in case you needed to hear this. I love you. Here is a poem from me to you.

I slowly opened my blue eyes and sat up, mesmerized by the sight before me.

For my last years, past of could’ve, should’ve, and wouldve staring directly at me.

Singing the saddest song of what could’ve been. Crying a melody of what should have been.

Each one is a memory of what would have been. Then suddenly, a mirror of last summer’s past appeared

before me. I see the little girl of last summer’s past. All forgotten and pleading with me.

Please, Sweet Lovely, remember me. The young girl who would run into the rain and dance for eternity.

Not a worry in sight. Don’t dream your life, live your dream. Please don’t forget your dreams.

Never ever give up, no matter what. Now you will go back to sleep and become the woman you always

wished to be.

This dream is just a warning of what could be. Good night, my darling. Wake up to your happily ever after.  

Good day, Lovelies. It is a cold, snowy day here in wonderful New York. I’m currently under the covers typing my sweet thoughts to you. Today I was about to start my waking hour as I usually do. Worrying about everything and nothing at all. I was very much tempted to be sad and depressed. Thankfully, I decided to choose happiness. Is happiness really a choice? “Happiness is often considered a personal, daily choice to focus on positive perspectives, purpose, and gratitude, directly impacting overall well-being.” Today, Lovelies, I want to delve deeper into choosing happiness even in the face of adversity.

Ya Lovelies I have had a lot of adversaries in my Franchy life. A lot of things in my life simply went wrong. Moreover, many people take advantage of my sweet heart. If I want to, I can choose to be angry, full of hate. I can retaliate and start hurting people because I want them to feel my pain. Nonetheless, I choose to be happy. Our time is truly limited. Tomorrow is never promised. That time you are not choosing happiness could be the last choice you will get to make. That’s not to say that choosing happiness will be easy. It most certainly won’t. Life could decide to throw the biggest curveball your way. For instance, I have experienced some of my biggest hardships when I had decided to choose happiness. Believe me, I understand all about the test of life. It’s the one time it is not about passing or failing. Rather, it is about surviving. Lovelies, I wanted to tell you about two different people whose lives ended unexpectedly. I don’t have enough time. I will continue tomorrow. See you all very soon. Bye, take care with sweet love.

Hello there, Lovelies, and how do you do? I myself am doing alright. Just trying my best day by day. As I mentioned in previous posts, things have been hard for me the last few years. Ya, Lovelies, my decision to pursue my dreams has put a huge strain on my finances. Consequently, this has led me to hard times. Which inevitably led me to learning some hard lessons. “Hard lessons often serve as catalysts for improving personal well-being, teaching that true balance requires intentional, sometimes difficult, choices.” “Key lessons include prioritizing self-care over constant busyness, setting firm boundaries to avoid burnout, and accepting that some things—including others’ actions—are beyond your control.”

Lovelies, I struggle with worrying about things out of my control. Even though it makes more sense to not worry. I just don’t seem to be able to stay calm. Speaking of staying calm, there is an app with the same name that I use to support my mental well-being. Calm is very affordable for everyone, which is great. I have used them for many years and will continue doing so. One of the hardest lessons I had to learn is that you can’t help others without first taking care of yourself. Self-care is beautiful and not selfish at all. Afterall you are of no use to me if you yourself are not doing well. So, begin with yourself and slowly spread the love. You know, Lovelies, I’m all about love. However, another one of the hardest lessons I learned is to be careful about whom you give your heart to. Make sure they deserve your love and attention. Lovelies, I thought I would be able to complete my thoughts with this frantastic post. I’m afraid I’m wrong. So, we will finish this tomorrow. Have a blessed day or night wherever you are in the world. Stay safe. I love you. Bye for now.

Hello there, Lovelies. How is the day treating you thus far? Or is it night where you are? I feel like I’m having serious deja vu, saying I can’t believe the first of the month is almost over. It seems that I was just saying that for January 2025. Ya time is flying. One of the biggest lessons that I have learn is that time waits for no one. Whether you are ready or not, it shall pass. When I was younger, I used to be so bored with nothing to do, really. I would think ugh time goes by so slowly. I never considered how time and hard lessons learned can impact my well-being. “Lessons learned significantly impact well-being by teaching self-compassion, the value of experiences over things, setting boundaries, practicing mindfulness, prioritizing health (mental & physical), and embracing growth through difficult times, ultimately leading to greater resilience, clarity, and a more intentional, joyful life.”

In the end, we all just want to be joyfully happy. Yes, we want to be wealthy with few problems. Additionally, we want to have the support of our friends and family. Nevertheless, overall, we just want to have a happy, fulfilling life. When I was more into my Franchy life in my mid-30s, I came across a YouTube video. The video stated that we become what we think about. It was simple yet profound. Suddenly, my entire life began playing in my mind. The insecure, shy girl began finding some important life lessons. Then again, in my present life, I came across another video. The video exclaims, “You can’t wait for your happiness to come.” It may never come. You have to choose happiness each and every day. Now, as I type this frantastic post, this statement comes to mind. ” You become what you think about. Choose happiness each and every day.” Lovelies, seriously, it seems that I’m experiencing an epiphany of sorts. I need to explore much further. Therefore, we will continue this tomorrow. Have a blessed one. Be safe out there. Bye, take care of yourself. I love you.

Good day, Lovelies. How are you all doing this lovely frantastic Monday? To be rather frank, I’m not doing too well today. I’m thinking, shall I be up front with you guys? Is there such a thing as being too authentic? You know what this site is all about: sharing with the community so we can all get the support we deserve. So ya I will share with you all about my perfectly imperfect day.

Anxiety is define as: “Anxiety is a normal feeling of worry or fear in response to stress, triggering the body’s “fight-or-flight” response with physical signs like a racing heart or sweating, but it becomes a disorder when persistent, overwhelming, and interferes with daily life, often involving excessive worry, panic, and avoidance, with types including GAD, Panic Disorder, and Phobias, treatable with therapy and lifestyle changes.” It feels like a 600-pound person is on your chest, and you are having problems breathing. Today I woke up with an excessively worrying mind. So many thoughts were going through my mind like I was on a bullet train in Japan. I felt trapped, like there was nothing I could do about it. Like there was no hope in sight. Suddenly, my mom and this man were coming downstairs. Trying to solve the problem brewing upstairs.

It is always great to remind yourself that we all have problems and there is always hope. Never feel ashamed or like you are a burden. To continue the story, the man went to the boiler room, then my room, and was able to resolve the issue. Over time, I realize that my anxious mind just wants the problems to be resolved. We all want our problems to be fixed. I just want to help Lovelies truly madly deeply. On that note, I would like to offer a service that I’m providing for free. I feel like all the things I viewed as negative are really something I can make into a good thing by simply changing my mindset. I have a gift, and I want to share it. I will be providing this service in my Facebook group “Franchys Luv and Acceptance For The World.” I will write an update when I’m ready to begin. I don’t mind suffering so I can share. How can you help if you never suffer? Similarly, you can’t have the rainbow without the rain. Alright, Lovelies, today was an eye-opening and painful day. Yes, ya I go there. It is all worth the pain if my suffering taught you a lesson. Have a good one, and I will see you all next time. Bye, take care.

Hiya Lovelies. How do you do this wonderful day or night, wherever you are in the world? I’m doing okay, thankfully. I’m working on my happiness and well-being. Today, I want to discuss a familiar topic we all encounter from time to time. That is social media. Let me make it clear: I don’t think social media as a whole is a bad thing—the difference is in how and why we use it. For example, I myself primarily use my social media for my businesses. Yes, I also use it for friends and family. I just mean primarily, my social media is for business. It is imperative that you mind your social media presence as it can significantly impact your well-being. “Social media impacts well-being both positively and negatively, with negative effects including increased anxiety, depression, and poor sleep, often due to social comparison and cyberbullying.”

Yes, Lovelies, social media is a big part of my Franchy life. I believe I’m on almost all social media. Yes, I’m trying to put my brand out there, and social media is one of the best ways to do so for free. However, I also use it to stay in touch with my friends and family. Social media can be a great way to stay connected when used appropriately. Nevertheless, with the ever-increasing prevalence of social media bullying, it is imperative that you monitor your online presence and be selective about who you add to your circle of friends. I’ve heard of stories where a person is bullied so much that they decide it is best to end it all. Lovelies, in my opinion, social media bullying is much worse than real-world bullying. In that you can reach a lot more people, and it is online forever! With the presence of phones and tablets, it’s almost like it is inescapable. Whereas when you were bullied, it was only in the school setting, to keep your well-being in a good place, balance your social media activities. Suppose someone is becoming too intrusive. Tell someone, and get some help. Silence never solves anything. If you feel lonely and want some help, don’t be ashamed to ask. It takes a lot to be strong enough to admit you have a problem and need help. I love you all truly. If you have a story that you feel will be beneficial to our community, please share it in the comment section. I will respond with sweet love and understanding. Remember, you are never alone. I’m here for you always. Please have a great one. I will see you all next time.

I see you are on the merry-go-round of broken dreams once again, sweet, lovely. Your once beautiful blue eyes are covered by self-doubt. Your perfectly imperfect painted fingernails shakily resting on your lap, as you await your next stop to your very own happily ever after. Beautiful, sweet soul angel, your happily ever after has been waiting for you all along. Patiently waiting for you to see the true beauty of your wonderful, sweet dreams. Sweet, lovely, always believe in yourself. Remember to stop dreaming your life and begin living your dream.

Franchys Thought For Tat.

Lovelies, the whole idea for this blog was created by my wonderful, sweet blue dream to just love myself as I am. In fact, loving myself has always been a dream I’ve had over and over again on the merry-go-round of broken dreams. This blog was created at a time when I was going through a really difficult time. I decided to enjoy food to its fullest, and I was getting a lot of negative feedback. People consistently reinforcing that thin was better and I look better that way. What everyone truly madly deeply fails to notice is that I was never happy and had a lot of anxiety. That’s right, when I was bigger, I was happier. Nonetheless, my happiness never mattered. Well, Sweet Lovelies, it truly madly deeply matters to me. Without true happiness, nothing else truly madly deeply matters. Beauties, you can have all the money in the world and be absolutely miserable.

Why be miserable every day is a gift? Every chance you have to stop dreaming your life and begin living your dream is a celebration of your very own happily-ever-after. So Sweet, Lovely, let’s dance, floating in the air. Emojis of heart and sweet kisses disappear and appear as the true meaning of life becomes more apparent. Lovelies, this blog post is for us all. Whenever we are going through a very exciting moment, let us share it here with our own wonderful online family. We can encourage and support each other. Seldom are their good news. All we hear about is other people’s difficulties. Here in our very own happily ever after, no negativity is allowed; nothing but sweet love will bring the blue back in your beautiful eyes. Carpe diem, seize the wonderful day. Don’t dream your life, live your sweet dreams.

Hello, my sweet Lovelies. I do hope that you are doing exceptionally well and are truly happy. Today, I wanted to discuss a topic that always brought anxious feelings and still does. I’m referring to aging. I know many people say it is a blessing to be given the opportunity to age. Which, of course, is true. It is not in the years but rather in the special moments that take your breath away. Keeping that mindset can perhaps help you age well and have a balanced life full of hope. “Aging well means maintaining physical, mental, and social health through positive habits like nutrition, exercise, staying connected, and managing stress, even as biological changes occur, focusing on overall well-being, finding purpose, adapting to change, and seeking joy to enhance quality of life and independence.”

Lovelies, just before writing this post, I came across a woman who passed on in her early thirties, still relatively young, with so much to look forward to. Yes, ya tomorrow is never promised to any of us. Similarly, not all of us are given the opportunity to age gracefully. When you think about it, ageing is just your body slowly deteriorating. Your muscles are losing their strength, and your beauty is slowly slipping away through the years. I look at my mother now, and I see the weaker and more frail woman she has become. She can no longer walk and stand for as long as she used to when she was younger. Moreover, she is having difficulties climbing the stairs as we live in a two-story house. Age is a reminder that our time is limited and we will not be here forevermore. Which can take its toll on your well-being. I find myself struggling with my mortality every day. I’m 43, and this year will make me 44. Sometimes I really don’t think about my age. Like it has not completely sunk in. Now most of my hair has turned white, and my face is beginning to show signs that I have been on this earth for a long time. Which is good. I think we spend so much money and time trying to preserve our youth that we forget to enjoy ourselves. Well-being is all about self-acceptance and living your best life at any age. To be honest, as we look in the mirror and our wrinkles are staring back at us, it is not easy to feel blessed and thankful. Going to a nearby drugstore and making a Botox treatment appointment is much easier. Lovelies, remember it is only a body. Your body is aging, not you. You may very well be young at heart. I know I’m. Instead of worrying about how old you are getting. Think about all that you been through and celebrate that you are still here. Be well, take good care of your body. Change your mindset and preserve your well-being for as long as possible. You only have one body. Be good to it, and it will help you enjoy as many years as possible. To be honest, Lovelies, I’m still struggling with my own perfectly imperfect aging journey. That’s okay, I’m perfectly imperfect, and I’m beautiful as is. Yes, we all are beautiful. Now let’s dance to our own happily ever after. I will see you all next time. Bye for now. I love you.